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I’m pretty lucky I found my soulmate at the tender age of 28. We didn’t get married straight away and we didn’t have any kids until I was 32. Today I’m delivering tips, fresh from my life, on how to know if you found your soulmate.

  1. You won’t be able to take your eyes off each other
  2. There won’t be many problems or things to have to work out
  3. You want to know why you seem to be joined at the hip
  4. The conversation flows and doesn’t stop
  5. It’s like you knew each other in a previous life
  6. It’s like you’ve always been together
  7. You’re mad for each other every day
  8. You have conversations between each other while talking to other people
  9. Your dreams are aligned and there are so many dreams
  10. You get excited about the silliest little things
  11. You get sad because you think one day you’ll have to part (when you’re dead)
  12. You don’t have to think about your relationship at all
  13. You can get on with life and not worry about fixing things in your relationship
  14. The adventures just never stop
  15. You attract friends who love your togetherness and energy
  16. You don’t spend much time apart but you can if you had to
  17. There’s no time like the present to do just about everything
  18. There’s so much to do together and so little time
  19. If you could ‘do all the same stuff again’ you would
  20. You can’t imagine life any other way

Bonus Tip: You really do love each other – the good, the bad and the ugly

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Losing love is never pretty. Whether you are the breaker-upperer or the one broken up with, it never feels good ending love. If you’re wondering what happens to the people who lose love and how to fix them (or yourself), read on to discover ways I’m saving love today.

When people lose love:

They cry all the time

People cry when they lose love and there’s nothing wrong with this. I believe that depression and sadness is a natural part of life. If we didn’t get sad we would never be able to enjoy being so happy. Life would be pretty bland.
The FIX:
I think when you breakup with someone you should continue to cry and cry until you stop, seriously. This is your body’s way of dealing with sadness. I say – run with it. Listen to the sad songs and let the tears out. After a while, the tears will stop and you’ll be able to get on with life, get out of the house and find new love again.
Note: If you are still crying after too many days have passed you need to talk to others and get some help.

They think it’s all over

It is sad to lose love and that is a given. When good people lose love they think it’s all over. They think they’re never going to find someone that good again. They think about all the wonderful things that their ex-partner had and that all those wonderful times are now gone.
The FIX:
It’s never all over. There are many good people in the world, all with amazing wit, humour and fantastic personality traits. There are plenty more people that will suit you. Yes the saying is true ‘There are plenty more fish in the sea.’ In time, you will find someone again and usually someone even better, because you’ve learnt from past mistakes. You also know what you don’t want anymore. Practice really does make perfect. Until your new partner comes along enjoy the knowledge that your relationship ended for a reason and take solace in the fact this is usually for the best.

Any song is heartbreaking

Songs become the most heartbreaking thing in the world. The saddest songs bring those tears on like torrential rain. Any song can turn a happy mood into the worst mood ever. Music is very powerful that way. It doesn’t help that most of the world’s artists sing about breakups too. This makes things even worse for the brokenhearted. But take comfort in the fact those words can only be written by someone who’s been there. Yes, even millionaire artists get broken hearted. You are not alone.
The FIX:
It stands to reason that if music is so powerful that it can make you cry, it can also do the exact opposite and make you laugh. So switch off the sad stuff and turn on some happy, uplifting, super awesome tunes and start enjoying your new life without all that old baggage. Find a song that represents the ‘new you’ and play it over and over.

Memories are everywhere

The hardest part about a breakup is that everywhere you go there are memories. There are memories of the local McDonald’s. There memories down at the beach, at the local movies and down streets you both used to take long walks on.
The FIX:
Avoid all the places you used to go for a while. Once you’re over the breakup you will be able to return to those places without crying. In the meantime, make it better by visiting new and interesting places you never went with your old partner. If you do this it is likely you will also not run into them, which is never good! Also consider taking a short break altogether (holiday) to snap you out of the old life and rejuvenate ready for a new one.
P.S If none of the above works consider a short rebound relationship. This is a fairly quick, tried-and-tested path (by many brokenhearted people) to getting over a breakup. I must say, my husband was a rebound and I’ve never looked back. He really took my mind off my horrible previous partner.
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Losing love is never pretty. Whether you are the breaker-upperer or the one broken up with, it never feels good ending love. If you’re wondering what happens to the people who lose love and how to fix them (or yourself), read on to discover ways I’m saving love today.

When people lose love:

They cry all the time

People cry when they lose love and there’s nothing wrong with this. I believe that depression and sadness is a natural part of life. If we didn’t get sad we would never be able to enjoy being so happy. Life would be pretty bland.
The FIX:
I think when you breakup with someone you should continue to cry and cry until you stop, seriously. This is your body’s way of dealing with sadness. I say – run with it. Listen to the sad songs and let the tears out. After a while, the tears will stop and you’ll be able to get on with life, get out of the house and find new love again.
Note: If you are still crying after too many days have passed you need to talk to others and get some help.

They think it’s all over

It is sad to lose love and that is a given. When good people lose love they think it’s all over. They think they’re never going to find someone that good again. They think about all the wonderful things that their ex-partner had and that all those wonderful times are now gone.
The FIX:
It’s never all over. There are many good people in the world, all with amazing wit, humour and fantastic personality traits. There are plenty more people that will suit you. Yes the saying is true ‘There are plenty more fish in the sea.’ In time, you will find someone again and usually someone even better, because you’ve learnt from past mistakes. You also know what you don’t want anymore. Practice really does make perfect. Until your new partner comes along enjoy the knowledge that your relationship ended for a reason and take solace in the fact this is usually for the best.

Any song is heartbreaking

Songs become the most heartbreaking thing in the world. The saddest songs bring those tears on like torrential rain. Any song can turn a happy mood into the worst mood ever. Music is very powerful that way. It doesn’t help that most of the world’s artists sing about breakups too. This makes things even worse for the brokenhearted. But take comfort in the fact those words can only be written by someone who’s been there. Yes, even millionaire artists get broken hearted. You are not alone.
The FIX:
It stands to reason that if music is so powerful that it can make you cry, it can also do the exact opposite and make you laugh. So switch off the sad stuff and turn on some happy, uplifting, super awesome tunes and start enjoying your new life without all that old baggage. Find a song that represents the ‘new you’ and play it over and over.

Memories are everywhere

The hardest part about a breakup is that everywhere you go there are memories. There are memories of the local McDonald’s. There memories down at the beach, at the local movies and down streets you both used to take long walks on.
The FIX:
Avoid all the places you used to go for a while. Once you’re over the breakup you will be able to return to those places without crying. In the meantime, make it better by visiting new and interesting places you never went with your old partner. If you do this it is likely you will also not run into them, which is never good! Also consider taking a short break altogether (holiday) to snap you out of the old life and rejuvenate ready for a new one.
P.S If none of the above works consider a short rebound relationship. This is a fairly quick, tried-and-tested path (by many brokenhearted people) to getting over a breakup. I must say, my husband was a rebound and I’ve never looked back. He really took my mind off my horrible previous partner.
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You don’t have to have a partner in life. We’ve all been sold this concept but it’s not necessarily for everybody. Valentine’s Day can be a real bitch to people who like to “do it alone” and quite annoying. There are plenty of people who will quite happily sit alone on Valentine’s Day without even blinking an eye, because their lives as solo agents are fully OK. There’s nothing wrong with single-dom. I love it when people don’t give in to societal pressures. Plenty of divorces are the result of people feeling pressured to get married prematurely and to keep up with the Joneses.
If you do want a partner (or are missing an old flame) and you do feel a little alone on Valentine’s Day, here are a few helpful ways you can spend the 14th of February alone without getting falling into a false depression.

Go to the movies

Plan a great movie for Valentine’s night. You could take a friend or relative with you or simply go alone. I absolutely love going to the movies alone for the simple fact but I can buy a whole lot of space for a fairly reasonable fee. (Especially if I use my discount RACV card – ha!)

Go out bowling with a few friends

Try to plan Valentine’s Day ahead of time and invite other single friends out with you. Go bowling. You never know who else might be out bowling with their friends. The night could become much more interesting than you think. You might meet someone new unexpectedly there.

Invite yourself over to someone’s house for dinner

Perhaps you could invite yourself over to your mum’s house or visit a nice family you know on Valentine’s night. They’re probably not doing much else than sitting around and eating dinner. I’m sure they wouldn’t mind that you joined them at the table. People are nice like that.

Work

You could always do what I do when I’m feeling a little lost and that’s work! I must admit that I do love my work, which is writing fun blog posts like this. Working is productive and really does get my mind off everything. It’s always great to turn adversity into something productive. This has got me very far in life.

Stay home and wallow in it (watch sad movies)

Sometimes it’s good to simply wallow in it. So pop up the shops and buy yourself some treats and enjoy a ‘night at the movies’ at home. The good thing about wallowing in your aloneness is that when you get a partner (if you want one) you will fully appreciate them in all their glory. Actually, once that happens, you’ll probably miss the days of watching movies alone! So enjoy this experience while it lasts.

Do something practical

You could always spend Valentine’s Day doing something really practical like buffing the house. While this might seem very boring, at least you won’t have to do those chores on your more important weekend. Clean out the pantry or rearrange furniture. Get busy and Valentine’s Day will be over before you can even speak of it.

Start a business

If you want to do something really productive, think about a new business you might like to start. Think of the name, the domain name and what your website might look like. Business is fun and you could start a whole new journey just because you were lonely on Valentine’s Day! This would make a great story when you are interviewed about your highly successful business one day.
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You don’t have to have a partner in life. We’ve all been sold this concept but it’s not necessarily for everybody. Valentine’s Day can be a real bitch to people who like to “do it alone” and quite annoying. There are plenty of people who will quite happily sit alone on Valentine’s Day without even blinking an eye, because their lives as solo agents are fully OK. There’s nothing wrong with single-dom. I love it when people don’t give in to societal pressures. Plenty of divorces are the result of people feeling pressured to get married prematurely and to keep up with the Joneses.
If you do want a partner (or are missing an old flame) and you do feel a little alone on Valentine’s Day, here are a few helpful ways you can spend the 14th of February alone without getting falling into a false depression.

Go to the movies

Plan a great movie for Valentine’s night. You could take a friend or relative with you or simply go alone. I absolutely love going to the movies alone for the simple fact but I can buy a whole lot of space for a fairly reasonable fee. (Especially if I use my discount RACV card – ha!)

Go out bowling with a few friends

Try to plan Valentine’s Day ahead of time and invite other single friends out with you. Go bowling. You never know who else might be out bowling with their friends. The night could become much more interesting than you think. You might meet someone new unexpectedly there.

Invite yourself over to someone’s house for dinner

Perhaps you could invite yourself over to your mum’s house or visit a nice family you know on Valentine’s night. They’re probably not doing much else than sitting around and eating dinner. I’m sure they wouldn’t mind that you joined them at the table. People are nice like that.

Work

You could always do what I do when I’m feeling a little lost and that’s work! I must admit that I do love my work, which is writing fun blog posts like this. Working is productive and really does get my mind off everything. It’s always great to turn adversity into something productive. This has got me very far in life.

Stay home and wallow in it (watch sad movies)

Sometimes it’s good to simply wallow in it. So pop up the shops and buy yourself some treats and enjoy a ‘night at the movies’ at home. The good thing about wallowing in your aloneness is that when you get a partner (if you want one) you will fully appreciate them in all their glory. Actually, once that happens, you’ll probably miss the days of watching movies alone! So enjoy this experience while it lasts.

Do something practical

You could always spend Valentine’s Day doing something really practical like buffing the house. While this might seem very boring, at least you won’t have to do those chores on your more important weekend. Clean out the pantry or rearrange furniture. Get busy and Valentine’s Day will be over before you can even speak of it.

Start a business

If you want to do something really productive, think about a new business you might like to start. Think of the name, the domain name and what your website might look like. Business is fun and you could start a whole new journey just because you were lonely on Valentine’s Day! This would make a great story when you are interviewed about your highly successful business one day.
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We live in a fast paced world and due to technology finding love has really gone to a whole new level in terms of speed and efficiency. There are many schools of thought about how to find love these days. There are people who cut straight to the chase and find love using Tinder and then there are the security phobes who prefer to find love the old-fashioned way. Whichever type you are, here are my 10 crazy ways to find love stupidly fast if you happen to be in need this Valentine’s Day.

Do it the old fashioned way – at a bar or party

You could always consider an old-fashioned way of finding love. Be open-minded when going to parties and bars with friends. You might find an unlikely partner standing near you at the chips and dips or telling a wild story to a friend of yours. Be open to every opportunity that could possibly come your way. You might just be talking to your future husband or wife! Think about that for a moment.

Find love online

Of course, there is the modern way of finding love, which is via websites such as eHarmony.com, RSVP.com or the Tinder App. Just be very careful as such sites do attract predators and unscrupulous types too. Never meet someone you’ve met online privately before spending time with them in public places and getting to know their history through family and friends.

Take a course

If you have a hobby it is a good idea to consider joining a club or taking a course. This way you are likely to meet someone with a similar interests to you. For example, you might join a running club and meet a partner who will also love to go on runs with you. Having a mutual interest is always a win-win in a relationship. Oh, unless you are highly competitive types and you end up arguing because someone keeps winning over the other. This kind of unhealthy competition may not be good for either of you in the long run.

Go to a library – you’ll meet smart people

If you have a great intellect and enjoy reading perhaps you could try to meet a partner in the library. The library is full of people who love to read and so it just makes sense that you will find someone with similar interests as you at such a venue.

Get friends to set you up

I met my husband through mutual friends. It’s always nice being introduced through friends because often they have your best interests at heart, know you very well and so know who you might suit. Just be careful of those serial setter-upperers! While they might be overly passionate about finding you a partner, they can overdo it and end up embarrassing and humiliating you.

Join Meet Up groups in your area

Also consider Meet Up groups in your area (http:meetup.com). Go to and search by location to find interesting groups. It is always nice to live close to the person you fall in love with. This just makes like that little bit easier.

Head to the beach

During summer hit the beach. People are at their happiest at the beach and frolicking in the sand and you are likely to meet someone who is in an extremely good mood! There is nothing better than love that starts on a beach.
Nice one – if this happens to you!
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We live in a fast paced world and due to technology finding love has really gone to a whole new level in terms of speed and efficiency. There are many schools of thought about how to find love these days. There are people who cut straight to the chase and find love using Tinder and then there are the security phobes who prefer to find love the old-fashioned way. Whichever type you are, here are my 10 crazy ways to find love stupidly fast if you happen to be in need this Valentine’s Day.

Do it the old fashioned way – at a bar or party

You could always consider an old-fashioned way of finding love. Be open-minded when going to parties and bars with friends. You might find an unlikely partner standing near you at the chips and dips or telling a wild story to a friend of yours. Be open to every opportunity that could possibly come your way. You might just be talking to your future husband or wife! Think about that for a moment.

Find love online

Of course, there is the modern way of finding love, which is via websites such as eHarmony.com, RSVP.com or the Tinder App. Just be very careful as such sites do attract predators and unscrupulous types too. Never meet someone you’ve met online privately before spending time with them in public places and getting to know their history through family and friends.

Take a course

If you have a hobby it is a good idea to consider joining a club or taking a course. This way you are likely to meet someone with a similar interests to you. For example, you might join a running club and meet a partner who will also love to go on runs with you. Having a mutual interest is always a win-win in a relationship. Oh, unless you are highly competitive types and you end up arguing because someone keeps winning over the other. This kind of unhealthy competition may not be good for either of you in the long run.

Go to a library – you’ll meet smart people

If you have a great intellect and enjoy reading perhaps you could try to meet a partner in the library. The library is full of people who love to read and so it just makes sense that you will find someone with similar interests as you at such a venue.

Get friends to set you up

I met my husband through mutual friends. It’s always nice being introduced through friends because often they have your best interests at heart, know you very well and so know who you might suit. Just be careful of those serial setter-upperers! While they might be overly passionate about finding you a partner, they can overdo it and end up embarrassing and humiliating you.

Join Meet Up groups in your area

Also consider Meet Up groups in your area (http:meetup.com). Go to and search by location to find interesting groups. It is always nice to live close to the person you fall in love with. This just makes like that little bit easier.

Head to the beach

During summer hit the beach. People are at their happiest at the beach and frolicking in the sand and you are likely to meet someone who is in an extremely good mood! There is nothing better than love that starts on a beach.
Nice one – if this happens to you!
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I’m going to make you feel better about something. If you have had a fight with your partner recently you are not alone. If you’ve never had a fight with your partner then you’re lucky and I find this pretty amazing. I had a fight with my husband last weekend. It was a silly fight based around our renovation project and kitchen island bench we’re installing. It was a horrible fight on Saturday morning and a crap start to and otherwise glorious weekend. But we have been together for along time and know the pitfalls of letting an argument just go on on.
Here are the tips and ultimate ways to do love smarter in 2016 so you don’t end up sulking around the house unnecessarily.

If you are having a fight – walk away

Here is the single most important thing we’ve done in the past 15 years that has kept our marriage together.
Big tip: When it gets too heated in the kitchen – get out.
Simply walk away, calm down (even if you have to get outside or even go up to the skate park with the kids) and let the fresh air work its magic on you. I guarantee that you will return a little less angry and with at least an inkling to make amends.

Give more flowers

If you’re a man and you have really stuffed up, don’t be afraid to give your woman flowers. This is singularly one of the simplest ways to get back in a woman’s good books. I’m constantly shocked at the amount of men who overlook this simple gesture. If you are a man and your reading this please leave comments on why you may not consider giving your partner flowers after you’ve stuffed up.
Is romance really this dead?

Communicate regularly

You’ve heard this one before. Communication is key and this means talking in a rational, calm and adult way. There are many things that happen in life that will test relationships including finances, friendships, children, work pressures and family issues. If you don’t communicate what is happening in your life with your partner on a regular basis, you may find that any issues exterior from your relationship may affect your happy couple-dom. If your husband or wife has full knowledge of what is going on with you, they are much more likely to be understanding of why you might be acting in a certain way. Talk about everything.

Don’t go to bed angry

I’ve heard many o